Should the coach pick the behavior to work on or the leader being coached?
Greater Kuala Lumpur
Thank you for presenting this insightful question. It really got me thinking, and I even took the initiative to reach out directly to Marshall Goldsmith for his perspective. Here’s what he shared: “The coach can never take responsibility for what the client changes. It is not the coach’s life. It is the client’s life.”
To me, Marshall’s comment contains a cautionary note to coaches. Sometimes we coaches tend to think of ourselves as experts – we know what’s best and how to achieve it. I think Marshall is saying that this is a mistake. Indeed, it reminds me of Frank Lloyd Wright’s observation, “An expert is someone who has stopped thinking because he already ‘knows.’”
When working with a leader on goal setting, I focus on three main aspects: (a) inspire the leader to put in the necessary time and effort; (b) align with what stakeholders desire (this includes the leader’s boss, the leader’s reports, HR and other key players); and (c) where I can add value as a coach.
To come up with such a goal, the 3–3–1 as I describe here is essential. The 3-3-1 creates the foundation for determining a goal that aligns the leader, coach, and stakeholders.
If you’re ready to take your leadership journey to new heights, let’s connect and explore the power of the 3-3-1 approach. Reach out to me, and let’s start the transformational coaching process today.
Jathan Janove is a Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholder Centered Coaching® Master Coach and Practice Leader. You can learn more about him here. If you have a question you’d like him to address, please email us at AsktheCoach@mgscc.net.